Jennifer Shahade: Hey Jealousy!

Tips on how to deal with the green eyed monster.

You would think that poker pro and 2-time American Woman’s Chess Champion, Jennifer Shahade has it all. A brilliant mind for strategy games, a growing resume of poker accomplishments and the adoration of fans. But, hey, even someone who seems to have it all figured out is subject to the emotional leak of jealousy.

Being the logic monster she is, she’s written a new article for the PokerStars blog in which she tries to dissect this ugly emotion and give tips on how to deal with it when your friends all seem to be having the success you long for.

Jennifer’s tips include:

1. Emotional swapping.

If something good happens to a friend and your genuine emotion is jealousy, you should probably express happiness and support for them anyway. Some people may dismiss this as “fake;” I call it “being the change you want to see in the world.”

2. Get a life.

Learn a new game or try to make a little money outside of poker. Spend less time following your friends and develop a new skill that sets you apart.

3. Ignore false comparisons.

It’s one thing to indulge in a little internal jealousy, but once you start giving into it in public ways, you are feeding a monster.

4. Jealousy isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

You have a group of friends that is successful enough for you to be jealous of. You’re probably ambitious and passionate and have some clear visions of what you want.

If you’re in the mood for it, check out the entire article to both learn more about the up and coming Shahade and get a little life reflection on the competitive nature of the solo “sport” of poker.

If you or someone you know has a gambling problem and wants help, call the Virginia Council on Problem Gambling (VACPG) helpline at 1-888-532-3500
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